Self-control over how you respond to others!

“This you know, my beloved brethren. But everyone must be quick to hear, slow to speak and slow to anger.” (James 1:19 NASB)

Galatians chapter five tells us that one of the nine fruits of the spirit is self-control. I am doing a short series discussing things that God has given us the ability to control. Here is another one.

You can have self-control of how you respond to others, i.e. what you do or say in reaction to something that has been said, has happened or has been done.

“But I say to you who hear, love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you. Whoever hits you on the cheek, offer him the other also; and whoever takes away your coat, do not withhold your shirt from him either.” (Luke 6:27-29 NASB)

Quotes:

“It's not the situation, but whether we react negative or respond positive to the situation that is important.” – Zig Ziglar

“Words can never adequately convey the incredible impact of our attitudes toward life. The longer I live the more convinced I become that life is 10 percent what happens to us and 90 percent how we respond to it.” – Charles Swindoll

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Self-control over what you look at

“The eye is the light of the body; so then if your eye is clear, your whole body will be full of light. But if your eye is bad, your whole body will be full of darkness.” (Matt. 6:22-23 NIV)

Galatians chapter five tells us that one of the nine fruits of the spirit is self-control. I am doing a short series discussing things that God has given us the ability to control. Here is another one.

You can have self-control of what you look at

Even though it’s not possible to avoid all the visual evil that is in the world, it’s all around us, you can avoid much of it in many respects, by choosing what you look at, including things like TV, movies, the Internet, video games, books and magazines. It’s about making wise viewing choices.

Make a conscious decision to NOT allow yourself to look at evil things

“I will set no worthless thing before my eyes.” (Psalm 101:3)

You can and should make a “what I will not look at” commitment

“I have made a covenant with my eyes; How then could I gaze at a virgin?” (Job 31:1 NASB)

There’s a connection between the eye and the heart

“But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart.” (Matt 5:28)

Ask God to help you have the eyes of your heart enlightened

“I do not cease to give thanks for you, remembering you in my prayers, that the God of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of glory, may give you a spirit of wisdom and of revelation in the knowledge of him, having the eyes of your hearts enlightened, that you may know what is the hope to which he has called you, what are the riches of his glorious inheritance in the saints, and what is the immeasurable greatness of his power toward us who believe, according to the working of his great might that he worked in Christ when he raised him from the dead and seated him at his right hand in the heavenly places.”  (Eph. 1:16-21)

“Open my eyes, that I may behold wondrous things out of your law.” (Psalm 119:18)

Quotes:

“The eyes are the gateway to the soul.” – Herman Melville

“Never lose an opportunity of seeing anything that is beautiful, for beauty is God’s handwriting — a wayside sacrament.  Welcome it in every fair face, in every fair sky, in every flower, and thank God for it as a cup of blessing.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson

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Self-control over your temper

“A fool always loses his temper, But a wise man holds it back.” (Prov. 29:11 NIV)

Galatians chapter five tells us that one of the nine fruits of the spirit is self-control. I am doing a short series discussing things that God has given us the ability to control. Here is another one.

You can have self-control of your temper, i.e. strong emotional reaction of displeasure, often leading to plans for revenge or punishment.

“He who is slow to anger is better than the mighty, And he who rules his spirit, than he who captures a city.” (Prov. 16:32)

“Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice.”  (Eph. 4:31)

Some practical steps for temper control

  • Stop and think before saying anything harsh! If you must speak, give a soft answer. Proverbs 15: “A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.”

  • Count to ten. In your head or out loud, so you can cool down and see where you’re at afterward. 

  • Breathe deeply, from your diaphragm. Breathing from your chest won’t relax you, so picture your breath coming up from your “gut.”

  • Take a time out if necessary.  Excuse yourself and move away from the situation in order to calm down and regain your composure.

“Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.” (Eph. 4:31-32)

Quotes:

“The greatest remedy for anger is delay.” –Thomas Paine

“Anger is an acid that can do more harm to the vessel in which it is stored than to anything on which it is poured.” – Mark Twain

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Self-control over fear!

“So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God.” (Isaiah 41:10 NIV)

Galatians chapter five tells us that one of the nine fruits of the spirit is self-control. I am doing a short series discussing things that God has given us the ability to control. Here is another one.

You can have self-control over fear, i.e. terror, fright, fearfulness, alarm, panic, dread, dismay, anxiety, worry, foreboding.

Fear is not from God

  “For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.” (2 Tim. 1:7)

Don’t be anxious about anything! But, in every situation do these 3 things:

1) Pray

2) Petition God with your requests

3) Thank Him

And, in Christ Jesus, He will do these 3 wonderful things for you:

1) He will give you the peace that transcends understanding.

2) He will guard your heart.

3) He will guard your mind.

Here is the Bible verse that says it clearly: “Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.  And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.” (Phil. 4:6-7)

God’s promises about fear

“But now, this is what the Lord says…Fear not, for I have redeemed you; I have summoned you by name; you are mine.” (Isaiah 43:1)

“When anxiety was great within me, your consolation brought joy to my soul.” (Psalm 94:19)

“I prayed to the Lord, and he answered me.  He freed me from all my fears.” (Psalm 34:4)

Note: The Bible says “do not fear” 365 times, one for each day of the year! It is a command that God truly wants you to understand. You must exert self-control over all fear! You can control it! Do NOT let the devil tell you otherwise!

Quotes:

“There is a stubbornness about me that never can bear to be frightened at the will of others. My courage always rises at every attempt to intimidate me.” – Jane Austen, Pride and Prejudice

“I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.” – Nelson Mandela

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Self-control over being thankful and grateful!

“Give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.” (1 Thes. 5:18 NIV)

Galatians chapter five tells us that one of the nine fruits of the spirit is self-control. I am doing a short series discussing things that God has given us the ability to control. Here is another one.

You can have self-control of being thankful and grateful

Develop an attitude of gratitude. Practice being grateful on a daily basis and your happiness and productivity will increase. Doing so will help you to focus on hope, remain inspired, be optimistic, encouraged and will produce resilience to persevere in the face of any setbacks.

Be grateful for receiving an unshakable Kingdom

“Therefore let us be grateful for receiving a kingdom that cannot be shaken, and thus let us offer to God acceptable worship, with reverence and awe.” (Heb. 12:28)

Glorify God with a sacrifice of thanksgiving

“The one who offers thanksgiving as his sacrifice glorifies me; to one who orders his way rightly I will show the salvation of God!” (Psalm 50:23)

Be thankful that his steadfast love endures forever

“You are my God, and I will give thanks to you; you are my God; I will extol you. Oh give thanks to the Lord, for he is good; for his steadfast love endures forever!” (Psalm 118:28-29)

Quotes:

“In ordinary life, we hardly realize that we receive a great deal more than we give, and that it is only with gratitude that life becomes rich.” – Dietrich Bonhoeffer

“I truly believe we can either see the connections, celebrate them, and express gratitude for our blessings, or we can see life as a string of coincidences that have no meaning or connection. For me, I’m going to believe in miracles, celebrate life, rejoice in the views of eternity, and hope my choices will create a positive ripple effect in the lives of others. This is my choice.” – Mike Ericksen

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Self-control over love!

“Beloved, let us love one another, for love is from God, and whoever loves has been born of God and knows God.” (1 John 4:7)

Galatians chapter five tells us that one of the nine fruits of the spirit is self-control. I am doing a short series discussing things that God has given us the ability to control. Here is another one.

You can have self-control over love

“You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall love your neighbor and hate your enemy.’ But I say to you, Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, so that you may be sons of your Father who is in heaven. For he makes his sun rise on the evil and on the good, and sends rain on the just and on the unjust. For if you love those who love you, what reward do you have? Do not even the tax collectors do the same? And if you greet only your brothers, what more are you doing than others? Do not even the Gentiles do the same? You therefore must be perfect, as your heavenly Father is perfect.” (Matt. 5:43-48)

The Bible tells us what love is.

“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.” (1 Cor. 13:4-5)

Love is from God

“Beloved, let us love one another, for love is from God, and whoever loves has been born of God and knows God.” (1 John 4:7)

We love others because God loves us

“We love because He first loved us.” (1 John 4:19)

We are also commanded to love others

“My command is this: Love each other as I have loved you.” (John 15:12)

“Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves.” (Rom. 12:10)

Quotes:

“I am not sure exactly what heaven will be like, but I know that when we die and it comes time for God to judge us, he will not ask, ‘How many good things have you done in your life?’ rather he will ask, ‘How much love did you put into what you did?” – Mother Teresa

“As the Father has loved me, so have I loved you.” – Jesus Christ

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Self-control over Relationships

“Walk with the wise and become wise, for a companion of fools suffers harm.” (Prov. 13:20 NIV)

Galatians chapter five tells us that one of the nine fruits of the spirit is self-control. I am doing a short series discussing things that God has given us the ability to control.

You can have self-control of your relationships, i.e. who you choose to spend the most time with.

Proverbs 1:10-19 and 4:14-19 warns about friends and how we should choose them. We are not to associate with any who entice us to do wrong, no matter how appealing their “friendship” seems to be. Avoid those whose “feet rush to sin.” Their sinful path is no place for a Christian to follow, whose choice should be to follow the “path of the righteous.” Only that path leads to friendship with God, which is the ultimate goal of a Christian.

Being yoked together with unbelievers is not compatible

“Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?” (2 Cor. 6:14)

Having unreliable friends will ruin you

“One who has unreliable friends soon comes to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.” (Prov. 18:24)

Having wicked friends will lead you astray

“One who is righteous is a guide to his neighbor, but the way of the wicked leads them astray.” (Prov. 12:26)

Having bad company will ruin your morals

Do not be deceived: “Bad company ruins good morals.” (1 Cor. 15:33)

Having wise friends will help you become wise

“Whoever walks with the wise becomes wise, but the companion of fools will suffer harm.” (Prov. 13:20)

Having wise friends strengthens and sharpens you

“A wise man is full of strength, and a man of knowledge enhances his might.” (Prov. 24:5)

“Iron sharpens iron, and one man sharpens another.” (Prov. 27:17)

Quote:

“Whatever you do in life, surround yourself with smart people who’ll argue with you.” – John Wooden

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Your days are written in God's book!

“My frame was not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place. When I was woven together in the depths of the earth, your eyes saw my unformed body. All the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be” (Psalm 139:15-16 NIV)

Have you ever wondered about what your purpose in life is?

Most people, when they think about their purpose, are thinking about their vocation in life. They are looking at the smaller picture. The big picture, however, is about what you are created for. If you discover and take care of that first, all the smaller purposes, such as your job, will fall into place.

Finding Purpose

  • Seek God first.

If you do that, He takes care of all your needs (including helping you in all your other secondary purposes).

“But seek you first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.” (Matt. 6:33)

  • Discover your “good works” purpose.

“For we are God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.” (Eph. 2:10). How do you discover your good works purpose? Ask God to fill you with “the knowledge of His will.”

“For this reason, since the day we heard about you, we have not stopped praying for you. We continually ask God to fill you with the knowledge of his will through all the wisdom and understanding that the Spirit gives, so that you may live a life worthy of the Lord and please him in every way: bearing fruit in every good work, growing in the knowledge of God, being strengthened with all power according to his glorious might so that you may have great endurance and patience, and giving joyful thanks to the Father, who has qualified you to share in the inheritance of his holy people in the kingdom of light.” (Col. 1:9-12)

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God grants you wisdom, knowledge, and understanding

“For the LORD grants wisdom! From his mouth come knowledge and understanding.” (Prov. 2:6 NLT)

God grants wisdom, knowledge, and understanding! When you think about it, you could achieve practically anything if you possess these three qualities.

Here are how these three qualities are defined and how to get them

1.     Wisdom: the quality of having good judgment and common sense. Being wise.

The Bible says, “But the wisdom from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, open to reason, full of mercy and good fruits, impartial and sincere.” (James 3:17)

How do you get it? You ask God for it; “If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask God, who gives generously to all without reproach, and it will be given him.” (James 1:5)

2.     Knowledge: facts, information, and skills acquired by a person through experience or education.

The Bible says, “Let the wise hear and increase in learning, and the one who understands obtain guidance.” (Prov. 1:5)

How do you get it? You seek it, “An intelligent heart acquires knowledge, and the ear of the wise seeks knowledge.” (Prov. 18:15)

3.     Understanding: the ability to understand something; comprehension.

The Bible says, “The unfolding of your words gives light; it imparts understanding to the simple.” (Psalm 119:130)

How do you get it? You incline your heart to it. “Making your ear attentive to wisdom and inclining your heart to understanding,” (Prov. 2:2)

Quote:

“Wisdom is the right use of knowledge. To know is not to be wise. Many men know a great deal, and are all the greater fools for it. There is no fool so great a fool as a knowing fool. But to know how to use knowledge is to have wisdom. – Charles Spurgeon

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